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November 2009 
THE sanctity of marriage …
Michael
IS, as also the concept of GOD,
very much a symbol of UNITY.
THE equitable unity of man and woman at the core of THE most important community in LIFE, which IS FAMILY. But NOT the unity of man in control of woman as is so often the case with ALL of those religions of the world and their political cohorts which have evolved exclusively in accordance with the patriarchal mind-set. A mind-set that IS genetically rooted in the animalistic survival of confrontation and conflict and one that unfortunately, as our species as a whole has evolved it’s collective consciousness, remains locked into the tribal male dominated “ists” “isms” & “itys” of basic ...
"DO WHAT I SAY NOT WHAT I DO" fundamentalist thinking.
" The truth is that Europe has never had so dire a crisis since the Treaty of Rome was signed in 1957. SAUVE QUI PEUT is the watchword. President Sarkozy has entered a familiarly Gaullist phase, ignoring EU competition policy and pushing through a €6 billion support for the French car industry; other manufacturers, notably in eastern Europe, have protested to no avail.
Mr Sarkozy's assertion that he is not a protectionist is purely rhetorical. When a German minister says that "now is not the time" to let workers from the EU's former eastern bloc countries have full immigration rights in Germany, he is saying the same thing. Gordon Brown may not be able to ensure British jobs for British workers, but the Germans are determined to keep their jobs for German ones.
This bending of the rules [of the OLD ORDER MODEL] – or rather this wholesale disregard of them – is the surest sign of a currency, and quite possibly an EMPIRE, in terminal decline. "Simon Heffer
A mind-set that has brought us to the brink of the abyss.
A chasm of mis-understanding of the peoples of this planet, spiritual and non-spiritual alike, who as ever are subject to the backward thinking varigries and leadership skills of our new masters of the globe.
There was a TIME during the early manifestation of our species that respect for the feminine of our species was beyond approach. THIS time around, however, our new masters of the globe have “engineered” an explosion of debt in the west at the expense of the hard labours and savings of the peoples of the East, and established a global infrastructure of banking, commerce and trade which has served the “immorality“ of their self-sophisticated arrogance and greed; whilst running out of oil far sooner than we think, burning what’s left such that our planet is being warmed to a catastrophic level and BEING in complete denial of the fact that the species survival on earth could BE subject to any number of "black swan" events.
TIME to take a rain check on that MODEL and collectively decide upon the constitution of a global model of "equitable thinking" communities, of the people, for the people and by the people.
So what does all this mean for our new masters of the globe?
According to Helen Fisher, speaking at the WEF Forum 2008 in Davos ...
Combine the long-term thinking of women with the short-term focus of men.
And bear in mind that different thinking also results in very different behaviour.
Men think more in terms of status and rank. Women prefer flat hierarchies.
Men can have tunnel vision, women may fail to get to the point.
Women find it difficult to counter aggression. When men push back, it earns them the respect of other men.
When women apologise, they are not really sorry. For men it's a serious affair, a perceived weakening of their status.
Ms Fisher's list goes on and on, but her message is clear.
Managers, says Ms Fisher, have to realise that men and women act differently, and that they complement each other.
Having only men or women on your team would be like hopping on one foot instead of walking.
As the status of women is on the rise again, says Ms Fisher, we
"move forward to a lifestyle we had a million years ago".
ROLL ON the "sanctity of marriage", twixt the masculine and feminine of our species, in EVERY aspect of LIFE such that the very survival of ALL LIFE on EARTH, and probably throughout the multiverse of parallel universes, becomes a symbol of "complementary" UNITY and the "Power of Collaborative Innovation".
LET us ALL
dance the dream of grace
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Access: Public
“Let’s NOT ”forget” Hillary Clinton, now charged with cleaning up another
mostly male mess, in the shape of the Bush administration’s foreign policy”
said Emma Soames in her recent article, COMMENTS and ALL …
Want a job done well? Ask an older woman.
Well, Michael,
I am not AS enthusiastic about the potential of family. Light and shadow, strong connectrivity, nurturing and growing is given as much as blind spots, hidden games and dangerous cul-de-sacs. As not only Bert Hellinger knows. Who is working with family constellations.
Living together in all kins of patchwork patterns creates new horizontal diversity . Remains to be seen what forms will gain evolutionary momentum next years.
The statements of Helen Fisher seem to be a bit flat for me. What is really moving is the increasing horizontal AND vertical complexity in man-women-dynamics.
Once again Pelle Bilings blog articulates gender liberation beyond feminism.
www.pellebilling.com
Will check Helen Fishers statements more in detail and come back to the theme.
PLEASE forgive my sometimes contentious remarks; they are made purely to ACT as stimulus to the thinking process.
I have talked here about THE sanctity of marriage BEING the “symbol” of UNITY
only in the context of the need for the feminine and masculine characteristics of
two minds ACTING as ONE. IT IS ONLY from this stand-point that the most
appropriate “family unit” can be seen as the basis of an optimum community.
AS prerequisites to the establishment of the model on which I have based the
111 network proposal, I would ABSOLUTELY concur with ALL of Pelle Billing’s
bullet points, in the context of the need to create an internetwork of global
networks of Thinking Environments; which would IT SELF form the template of
the ”BIG IDEA”.
:):)so my tenor is more about how it concretely is realized and manifested. Through trial and error, per aspera ad astra, and lots of dark play in evolution too. In mystery and secrets as much as in reason and ratio.
Even invisible to a considerable degree to all discourses and public collaboration. Entrpreneurial impulses in the nanoseconds of non-intentional play as much as in designed processes of all kind.
Marriage in this sense can manifest in hundreds of sub forms and facettes. If not in thousands…:)
Hmmmmm? I tried to follow this with an open mind. Yet, I could not relate to “how” men are and “how” women are. I don’t find that to be true. I find us to be very similar. We want love and acceptance. To be understood and have freedom to grow.
personally, marriage is not a good institution. I have found it be a disaster for the human soul. I can only imagine it being ‘successful’ if it is between two spiritually minded individuals. If it is for sexual union, or union of male and female….O, disaster! (big smile). You will become so bored and disillusioned and daily you consider jumping off the house. Only when it is for spiritual reasons, two people living, not as one (!)…but together seeing one another, assisting one another’s growth. Seeing life as journey of spiritual growth.
I am from the deep south, and I only dated one man from there. Even at a young age, I could see this ME-man-You woman syndrome…..No….! I see equality in human beings not necessarily sexes.
I am married, and I find it is useful for the children to have this safety…to have their mother and father close. But I personally am against the idea of becoming One….I live from an idea of two people meeting, coming together for a spiritual purpose ~ in my case, the raising of children. Giving respect, understanding, and mostly space! to be who we are as individuals. Loving one another as two strangers on a journey, learning of love, caring for the children….respecting one another as individuals.
Hundreds of sub forms and facettes, if not thousands ~ if not millions (big smile!) ~ if not more than the grans of sand on all beaches!
“Andrew Cohen’s”, video on “The Purpose of Life”, to me really hit the spot!
The discussion and connection between a member of the audience and himself was very “cool”….totally awesome!
My conclusiveness to this whole matrimony thing is: that to strive to perfection is what we are her to achieve, by becoming involved with the whole “big boom theory”, of how life began and why.
Being set free of oneself to create a oneness towards a perfection of god’s image, all for the sake of boredom that set within his sight, was such a need to our intricate workings of becoming a valued member of his/her worth in the end, some day.
It was of our light formations that needed to be seen to his holdings (perhaps) to begin with, and must of been present to his needful eye in order to see where everyone’s atoms (braineroo) were at. (holding to and for it’s purpose of).
Something more inward was a needed procession to his light of wellness for us all, and most needed of a carried on doings towards his divinity which was calling all that was around his image to feel, and be preserved to an awakened part of ones soul in harmony with……and this was when he introduced, Mother God.
She is the emotional side of our birthright, and is what was perhaps his needed astronomical link to his boredom. “SHE”, was the missing peace to the puzzle, and a most introductory needed conception…the missing link of what was needed to have his image come to life with….the marriage, in other wards.
The movement and dealings he wanted, me thinks, is for us to feel married to the “involvement and conception” of his love on going’s for…..to feel the emotional - in order to conceive the divines wonder of……the awakened land of both male and female, aligned to a oneness….in beautiful harmony of the ego and the emotional, set for life paradise.
He wants to put a smile on our faces from the get go of what he is, and all for the sake of making his true love of light be our awakening channel to…so that more on going’s of our/his light, and structural infinity, can be aliven’d with the on going infinity for all and forevers’ paradise.
Fore the sake of it’s rewards and for what this cosmic universe holds for us, is just a foot in the door towards an enlightenment and most cherished of all around….the circle of unconditional love.
Am I close:-)
“V”,
Rita
Apart from the propensity to focus more and more on less and less, we should, as I have said from the outset of my TIME @zaadz, be concentrating on the REALLY BIG PICTURE by seeking less and less about more and more; because there appears 2B some confusion of “symbolic” understanding here, in the context of the institution of marriage viz the union of marriage twixt two complementary entities; NOT unsimilar, in fact, to the concept of Buddha as ZEN NOT Buddha as Buddhist and Jesus as Jesus NOT Jesus as Christ.
EVERY THING that has been said here - IS - and continues 2B the illusion of reality becoming the reality of illusion; and IT IS an awakening to that FACT which has best been described by Rita …
Fore the sake of it’s rewards and for what this cosmic universe holds
for us, is just a foot in the door towards an enlightenment and most
cherished of all around…. THE circle of unconditional love.
Am I close:-) - ABSOLUTELY SPOT ON
“HERE IS the undiscriminating love that vanishes without trace in favour of the loved ONE. Such IS the divine nature, in whose image we are ALL BUILT.”
Douglas E. Harding - “Look for Yourself”
“THE marriage between vision, values and policy has proved elusive for environmentalists. Most environmental leaders, even the most vision oriented, are struggling to articulate proposals that have coherence. THIS IS A CRISIS because environmentalism will never be able to muster the strength it needs to deal with the global warming problem as long as it is seen as a “special interest”. And it will continue to be seen as a special interest as long as it narrowly defines the problem as “environmental” and the solutions as technical.”
Schellenberger and Nordhaus, 2005
… and as Jonathon Porrit has quite succinctly noted ”By “old assumptions”, Schellenberger and Nordhaus are referring to the fact that the standard approach of US environmentalists has not changed much in the 40 plus years since the publication of Rachel Carson’s Silent Spring (1962).
WHAT BETTER way of nurturing creativity than to …
DANCE, DANCE, DANCE the dream of grace ?
IN order that THE marriage between vision, values & policy should be executed.
“Marriage in this sense can manifest in hundreds of sub forms and facettes. If not in thousands…:)”, and “….hidden games and dangerous cul-de-sacs”.
This is most definitely the case; but not only in marriage: all relationships, no matter between whom and what can this facet exists has a possibilitie.
– I was delighted to see you mention Bert Hellinger… very easy healing easy process. I just love it his work!
But Hellinger is not talking about marriage; he's talking about the whole family constellation - which for us, as humans, is inevitable, (because, if we wouldn't have mom and dad, grandmom and granddad, we woudnt' be born, right.)
And he is not only looking at the conflict, but giving solutions.
I am not saying, that “fight”, etc. are positives, but frictions generate energy - take two stones and friction them together.. you got fire! Same in family or any relationship: based on the premise that we are here to grow, the coming together is always a learning experience for us, facilitating to accomplish ultimately our life purpose. Nothing we gain by trying to avoid it. When we do not grow.. we die.
Cheyenne,
” marriage is …… a disaster” .. well, it certainly can be that! But it doesn't have to.
Michael,
I definitely like very much the approach of complementary proposal… even if, like Cheyenne said, we can't really establish stereotypes.. - because there are exceptions -, in my personal experience, we do compliment each other, men and woman.
But, this doesn't mean that a conjunction with every man and woman will work. Ohhh NO!!
Ultimately, it depends on each of us and what we individually decide: if you decide to complement yourself with someone, you'll find him/her. If you decide, that being alone accomplishes more, we'll you'll have that.
It took me three marriage (and several relationships…) to get to my current marriage.. where I feel more complemented then ever, where his masculine and feminine part go so well together with my feminine and masculine part… where.. where is friction, we make harmony happen, and were I can be simply MYSELF - meaning having a space for my personal growth!!
So, we shall not give up: there is hope!!
Let's thrive for togetherness and taking advantage of our differences to be complimentary. It's up to us. Let's just MAKE IT HAPPEN!!
Love, Love, Love to Albert, Cheyenne and Michael!
Learning to learn IS what its ALL about and …
Ultimately, it [DOES] depend on each of us and what we individually decide: if you decide to complement yourself with someone, you'll find him/her. If you decide, that being alone accomplishes more, we'll you'll have that … EXACTLY
Let's thrive for togetherness and taking advantage of our differences to be complimentary. It's up to us. Let's just MAKE IT HAPPEN!! … ABSOLUTELY
EQUALITY need not mean SAMENESS
Absolutely!! “Equality need not mean sameness” - realistic and wise approach… since looking for (the impossible) sameness can only create conflict and separation….. whereas equality in the context of differences includes the notion of “acceptance of the differences” or “equally acceptance of difference”…. the beauty of the differences and - as you said, Michael - the infinite combination of differences creating new nuclear entities. Like it!!!!!
My ABSOLUTELY well-meaning friend@gaia, Albert, has said earlier that …
I am not AS enthusiastic about the potential of family …
BUT in the context of my own responses to Albert about the symbol of non-conflicting UNITY and the STATE that the UK now finds itself IN viz the rest of Europe, Kathy Gyngell's article in the Daily Telegraph, makes priority reading IF ANYTHING IS to BE DONE about the ”predominately patriarchal mindset” of our ”new masters of the globe”, of which I always speak as being at the heart of THE PROBLEM of OUR SPECIES, and which seems to be not so well understood by Pelle Billing.
As Kathy Gyngell has so succinctly concluded …
That so many more of our children are now disadvantaged and neglected is rooted in the fact that so many more are being born to lone and cohabiting parents, while the Government remains wedded to the politically correct myth that this is OK.
Labour sought to reduce lone parents' dependence on the state by persuading or coercing them into work – a policy that has singularly failed because the benefits system works against it. The result is tens of thousands of uneducated and unskilled single mothers who are, in effect, ”married” to the state.
Where a father figure exists, he is usually unemployed and emasculated.
We are alone in Europe in having such a liberal and individualistic agenda, one that has proved so damaging both to individuals and to society. This is one area where we should come into line with Europe. But it will take great political bravery to change the tax system to stop discouraging marriage and to start discouraging single parenting. It will mean cultural change led by eloquent refutations of Labour's false argument that any change in the tax laws would penalise and stigmatise the children of single parents.
It will take a renewed understanding of children's needs – above all, an understanding of their need for the stability of parental commitment and parental responsibility. Sadly, for all their fair words, and their Every Child
Matters agenda, this Government persists in doing the opposite.
WOW…you never cease to amaze me Michael!
joy*
After reading your truly noble and insightful blog, from which ensued an enlightening and thoughtful discussion, I wrote this sorry thing.
Oh Michael the little girls are so cute. I hope to have one someday. And I am sending you and Linnie as much love as any grateful friend can today. Thank you to Mickelinnie for love and lessons, I will cherish forever. You two are such a fine example of the healthy relationship. I hope I can follow in your footsteps now. Such fine parents, friends, and grandparents, as well. Hugs for all the little fishers, and to you in your kingdom across the pond, my angel.
Lots of love,
j (: *
we need each other so much, as men and women. after being alone for too long, in the most important ways, i now find myself benefitting each day from the wisdom, humour and complementarity of my beloved, and he from me. We are richly blessed.